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When There Seems to Be No Answers to Your Trauma

When There Seems to Be No Answers to Your Trauma

Many women sit each week in church pews feeling alone, neglected, wounded, and wanting desperately to feel loved and give love back. These women give the impression that all is well in their life as they smile at each person they fellowship with. The worship can be good, and the message can be encouraging, but the pain still resides deep in their hearts and soul. Because of past trauma, abuse, or neglect, they sit in church dressed beautifully on the outside but falling apart on the inside.

How do I know? I was one of them. Having experienced abuses in all categories and never having the trauma healed, caused me to create “band-aids” on my emotions to move on in life.  The sad truth is those band-aids never really brought healing.  All they did was cover the pain, but deep inside my core was something I could not be free of.

Results of Abuse

The experiences from my abuses caused me to label myself with lies from the enemy. You know those words. “You are unlovable. You are stupid. No one wants you. The pain will always stay with you. It will never go away.”  I had listened to those lies for so long that they became part of my makeup.  Thinking I was unlovable only caused me to gravitate to relationships that were abusive and mimicked what I grew up with.

I didn’t know how to protect myself and the only means I could justify was anger. Let me be angry so that you will stay away from me. Let me be angry so you cannot cause me more pain.  Let me be angry so you will help confirm I am unlovable. The cycle continued year after year until I was blessed to be in deliverance prayer with three beautiful God-loving and God-fearing women.


Finally, Set Free

As they prayed to set me free, I laid in a fetal position thinking I was going to die. The pain was so deep and so intense that I thought they would have to take me away in a straight jacket. I even wondered if we stepped into something that was beyond our ability.  But not for a moment did these three beautiful women think that. They calmly and lovingly persisted in prayer until I had a “spiritual vomit” and the demons left setting me free. Now I was no longer sitting in a church pew, looking pretty on the outside and having tremendous pain on the inside.  I had beauty in and out.

How can I find freedom?

There are many who wonder how to move forward in life to get the abundance and freedom that Jesus Christ died for them to have? After all, He said, “I have come to give you everything in abundance, more than you expect—life in its fullness until you overflow!”  (John 10:10b The Passion Translation, TPT). But how do we obtain that abundance? The answer is simple, but the process can be hard.  What do I mean by that?  Let me explain.

Jesus tells us, that our burdens are heavy “but His burdens are light” (Matthew 11:30). He says, “His thoughts are not our thoughts, and His ways are not our ways” (Isaiah 55:8).  The beauty of those words is not that the Lord is keeping His burdens, thoughts, or ways from us. He wants us to accept His burdens, thoughts, and ways and He will teach us what they are.

As you begin to seek what those burdens, thoughts, and ways are and the Lord shows you, it will be important to receive them into your heart and believe them to be true. The next step will then be to stand on those truths and that can be the hard part. Jesus gives us simple answers but adhering to them can be hard. Why is that? Because sometimes the pain inside doesn’t seem to subside. Our circumstances seem to continue to mount and not in a good way. The voices that are whispering in our ears are telling us that we will never be free.

The darkness in our soul wants us to believe that nothing is happening. But just because there may be silence from the Lord, does not mean He is not working. If we have prayed and asked for deliverance, healing, and hope, we need to believe He will answer those prayers.


Part of our faith is trusting without reason or answers.

Believing even when we cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Standing on His truth even when we feel we can’t stand any longer.


What God purposes for us

Just because we still don’t see the answer to our prayers does not mean Christ is not working.  We must believe He is always working and never stops until His children are set free. It’s those times of doubt that we need to go back to why Christ hung on that cross, was crucified, and rose again. We need to believe He came to set the captives free.

Think about when Christ walked the earth the last three years of His life. He never refused to heal anyone who came to Him for healing. He cast out demons and healed the sick.  The Word says, “He was always full of compassion for the people.” (Matthew 14:14)

Peter tells us that, “He personally bore our sins in His [own] body on the tree [as on an altar and offered Himself on it], that we might die (cease to exist) to sin and live to righteousness.  By His wounds you have been healed” (1 Peter 2:24 The Amplified Bible, AMP). What this Scripture is telling us is that when Christ died on the cross and took those beatings, it was so we could die to our sin and receive our healing.

We do not have to ask for healing. We just need to accept it, believe it, and stand on it. It has already been given. Sometimes it takes time to see that healing manifest, and that is where our faith needs to be released as it will help us to stand.  Christ says we only need a mustard seed size of faith.  As negative circumstances come at us and we believe in His truth, our faith will continue to grow.  It will grow to the point that eventually we don’t have to battle in our circumstances. We will just stand on His promises. As we get attacked, we will learn to go to the Word, get His truth and apply it to our life.


Still Waiting on Answers

You might ask yourself what could be happening if you do not have your results yet. I remember going through the trauma of a very tumultuous divorce.  It lasted for several years and as much as I cried out for it to stop, it continued month after month, year after year.

Don’t get me wrong there were times I questioned was God really with me?  But after I picked myself up off the floor, I would make the decision to choose to believe He was with me.

10 Tips to Standing in Freedom

What can you do to help stand when everything around you is saying differently?  Perhaps these 10 tips will guide you to your freedom.


  • Whatever negative voice you are battling right now, rebuke it in the name of Jesus and command it to go.
  • Stop “thinking” your way through your healing. Hand it over to the Lord and tell Him you want to “touch the hem of His garment” Matthew 9:20.
  • Try your best to stop rehearsing your pain and trauma. You’ve given it to the Lord, now leave it there and receive His healing.
  • Be sure to invite Christ into all aspects of your life and your problems.
  • Continue to trust your ABBA Father and don’t be afraid.
  • Take refuge in the shadow of His wings.
  • Don’t let your emotions and senses dominate your thinking. Stand on the Word of God.
  • Continually stay in communication with ABBA Father.
  • Remember that He is ALWAYS with you.
  • Accept difficult days and know together with ABBA Father you can handle anything.


Find a Prayer Partner

Try to keep these points in the forefront of your mind as you believe in your healing. Find a prayer partner who is willing to stand with you and hold you up on those days when your faith weakens. When those days occur, don’t let the enemy bring condemnation to you because the Word says, “So now the case is closed.  There remains no accusing voice of condemnation against those who are joined in life-union with Jesus, the Anointed One.” (Romans 8:1 The Passion Translation, TPT)


Hold onto your ABBA Father my sister as you walk this journey towards your healing. Your healing is His promise.  Be free, be loved, and be encouraged.



As a Spiritual Life and Certified Health Coach, Regina Sanchez has been coaching clients since
2013.  By helping people Revive Joy, Rejuvenate Destiny and Restore Health, Regina works
alongside her clients to transform their life and their health into something that will enhance
their purpose and move them into their destiny.  You can connect with Regina at the following links.


Wife of 20+ years. Mom to 3 children. Love sharing my life with weary hearts so that we can know the One who is Good, who is in Control, and Whose strength is made perfect in our weaknesses.